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The Cast of the Hit Broadway Musical “Dear Evan Hansen” on Kindness, Acceptance, + Mental Health

Last year, we announced that Born This Way Foundation would be launching a new program: Channel Kindness. It’s a platform to give youth a voice in a media landscape that too often ignores or misrepresents young people. It’s a platform to report on the kind, compassionate, and brave individuals and events that shape our communities. And it’s a platform to counterbalance the negative narratives that dominate the media and inspire hope that progress is possible.

Visit ChannelKindness.org today and be sure to follow Channel Kindness on social media: Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.


“Dear Evan Hansen” is a hit Broadway musical exploring the lives of a group of high school students as they deal with social anxiety, the pressures of communicating (online and offline), and honesty – with yourself, with your parents and with your community. The cast and crew deliver a brilliant, heartfelt, and altogether extraordinary performance aimed at teens, parents and anyone who has ever felt like an outsider.

Our very own Shadille Estepan and Laura Wilson met up with some of the cast and crew at the opening night and asked them about kindness, acceptance, and mental wellness. Here’s what they had to say:

 

Ben Platt – “Evan Hansen”
Q: What do you hope the audience takes away from this show?
A: “It’s a particularly scary time in the world at the moment and I think that there is something very powerful about sitting in a room and having a moment with the audience that feels very human, raw, and imperfect and flawed. It sort of reminds people that it may be very terrifying to be seen, to feel really truly seen by people, but that it’s the only way we are ever going to find common ground, is if we are not afraid to see the person beneath the ticks or sort of behavioral strangeness like Evan has. To reach beyond that and see that to see the human being that he is.”

Will Roland – “Jared Kleinman”
Q: “Dear Evan Hansen” focuses on the beautiful themes of mental health, acceptance, and kindness. Why do you feel that this is an important story to tell?
A: “We live in an age where mental wellness and mental health have been brought into the spotlight in a way that perhaps they haven’t in the ages of our forbearers (jokingly) and I think what “Dear Evan Hansen” does is that. It really, sort of, delicately explores that mental health and wellness are multifaceted things. It’s not just about chemicals in your brain, what you’re getting from your mom, or what you’re getting from your friends. It’s all of those things combined and the ways in which you can heal and get better aren’t similarly myriad.”

Kristolyn LLoyd – “Alana Beck”
Q: What does kindness mean to you?
A: “Like Alana, I’d say that I myself also exhibit moments of wanting to be a part and be a help to somebody. And so, I think kindness is that. Kindness is reaching out. Kindness is asking, “How are you?” Kindness is turning to your neighbor and saying, “How can I be of service?” I wouldn’t go as far as Alana does but I think that’s where we all should fall in the middle of. It’s understanding that you have an ability to make a change and an ability to make a difference. “

Laura Dreyfuss – “Zoe Murphy”
Q: What advice would you give to people to be kind even when it’s not returned?
A: “The most important thing is putting yourself in other people’s shoes. I think that that’s probably the hardest thing for a lot of people to do. Mainly, because some people might have never had to. Given where you’ve grown up. It think that’s the key to understanding anybody and to be kind to anybody, it’s by really seeing what it’s like being in their lives and if they are having a bad day, there is probably a reason for it. Everybody is truly doing the best that they can and having grace and forgiveness for that.”

Q: Speaking of grace and forgiveness, how forgiving are you with yourself and the courage it take to be up on stage?
A: “I think that as actors and artists we tend to be really hard on ourselves and be our own worst critics. At the end of the day all you have is you, so you want to hold yourself responsible as much as possible. That’s a constant everyday struggle. Is learning to forgive yourself when you feel like you aren’t doing enough or aren’t good enough. Not good in the sense of talent, but good in the sense of how you’re affecting everybody around you in a positive way.”

Michael Park – “Larry Murphy”
Q: “Dear Evan Hansen” does an incredible job of showing the perspectives of both the kids and the adults in the show – and how surprisingly both feel the same way: lost. Do you think we ever grow out of that, and how do we combat that feeling of isolation?
A: “I’m sorry, I’m getting a little bit emotional because I have three kids and one of my children probably about a year ago was having a really tough time in school and I sat them down and I said, “What is going on? Crying. What is happening?” And I would go through the list of things I thought it might be and they go, “No. Sometimes I just, I feel like Connor.” And I immediately was “trust fallen” and explained to them that you’re not by yourself in feeling this way.”

Mike Faist – Connor Murphy
Q: Born This Way Foundation focuses on the mental health and wellness of young people as does “Dear Evan Hansen,” there is so much synergy there. Why is this an important story to tell?
A: “I feel that it’s an important story to tell because we all deal with it. When I was doing research, if you will, for this. I was talking to a group of people who had attempted to commit suicide, failed, lived and are going through rehab and some of them are diagnosed with bipolar disorder and other things. In talking to them you realize that it’s a spectrum and that we are all on that spectrum and we all have moments of feeling depressed or feeling vulnerable in ways. It’s important because we are all in it together and we all feel this way. I feel like the sooner we can accept that and realize that the sooner we can get on with healing and loving one another.”

We Scored a Touchdown for Kindness!

Our Born This Way Foundation team is so excited to announce that the winners of our Kick Off for Kindness campaign have been selected! We received so many amazing entries and we want to sincerely thank each and every one of you for your amazing acts of kindness!

Our five winning Watch Party hosts went above and beyond in using the Big Game as an opportunity to spread kindness in their communities! In New Jersey, one winner hosted a “Souper” Bowl Party where party goers collected over 150 pounds of food for homeless people in their community. Another in Massachusetts collected blankets as well as clothing items such as hats, coats, and gloves, so that the homeless in their community can stay warm.

One winner and their guests spent time before the Big Game volunteering at animal and homeless shelters, and then came together on game day to write letters to those who they met while another party spent the day creating snack packs and hygiene bags for their local shelters.

We were blown away by ALL of the acts of kindness that were submitted and love how many people turned out to help us make the Super Bowl so kind! But just because the parties are over doesn’t mean the acts of kindness need to stop!

Please continue to share your every day acts of kindness with us on Twitter and Instagram by using #YearOfKindness, so we can make 2017 the kindest year yet!

Last Chance To Participate in Phase III Of Our Born Brave Experiences Survey

Here at Born This Way Foundation, research is the backbone of all of our work and there is no better example of that than our Born Brave Experiences Survey. We’re excited to announce that we’ll be concluding Phase III of the survey this Sunday, March 5th, and we need your help to make it as successful as possible.

We have heard from thousands of young people all over the world and with only a few days left to participate we want to ask you once more to share our study and, if you haven’t already, please lend your voice by taking the Born Brave Experience Survey.

To help illustrate why this research is so important, I wanted to share how I spent last week. On February 24th, I was able to accomplish one of my long time personal goal of mine and present at the National Association of School Psychologists Conference in San Antonio, Texas, along side our amazing research team from the University of Nebraska Lincoln.

For our presentation, we drew on data from Phase II of the Born Brave Experience Survey. We were interested in the influence of parental level of education and young adults’ (ages 19 – 25) experiences with social and emotional support. The aim of this research was to understand the relationship between participants’ social-emotional outcomes (i.e. depression, anxiety, and ability to cope with stress) and their parents/caregivers educational attainment. We hypothesized that young adults whose parents attained higher levels of education would report better social-emotional outcomes.

We found that young adults, whose parents graduated from college, demonstrated increased ability to cope with stress, lower levels of anxiety, and lower levels of depression when compared to young adults whose parents graduated from high school or whose mothers did not graduate from high school.

Our results provide evidence that such young adults may need increased in social and emotional support. Furthermore, mental health professionals should consider ways to increase social-emotional supports within their communities to facilitate mental wellness and effective coping strategies in youth, young adults, and their families. Our research supports Born This Way Foundation’s on-line support and community activism that fosters kindness and bravery.

It was incredible for the opportunity to share some of the data from our second round of Born Brave Experiences Research with both practicing psychologist and aspiring psychologist from all over the country!

We would not have been able to accomplish any of this without your help and we want to thank you all for taking the time to participate in and share the survey with your networks!

-Sam Hanson

Saved by Hatch

This month, as a continuation of #KickOffForKindness and #KindLI experience in Houston, we are proud to share a blog from Crimson Jordan, a member of the LGBTQ youth community who was saved by Hatch Youth. Hatch Youth serves as a supportive resource for young LGBTQ people. You can find out more about their mission and get involved here!

Where do you start when you are asked to describe a program that saved your life? Hatch Youth Services is the oldest LGBTQ youth program in Texas and last year had more than 800 youth in the program. I was one of them.

Life before Hatch

My life was a de-gay camp… I wish I was kidding. On Sundays, my house would turn into a church. As part of their ministry, my mother and stepfather would go into other people’s houses and tell them how to raise their children. They believed that, in order for their kids to be good, they should beat them up. They used the Bible to back it up.  “Look at Crimson!” they’d say, “Look how well behaved Crimson is.”

I felt like I was in prison. I would be sitting, and I would actually FEEL the walls closing in. Like my very being was barred. I wrote my mom a 15-page letter explaining how I felt, about my being trans. I’ll never forget. When she read it, she laughed. She told me, “No, you’re not doing this.”

After that things did not go well.  I felt desperate… to be myself. I was suffering from depression and PTSD because of what I had been through with my parents. Through CPS, I was able to get counseling, and medicines. But I was still a recluse. I would lock myself in my room and not talk to anyone or do anything. It was terrible. I frequently thought of using my anti-depressants to end my life because I was so stuck.

Life at Hatch

People don’t realize that when you go into Hatch, you’re not going into a program, you’re learning a practice.

You’re learning how to be a better person. You’re learning to manage all your problems. You’re learning about humanity at its core. How to accept yourself.

When I was 17, I moved into an apartment by myself. I had money from my friends. I had money from my birthday. I had food from Hatch. I had socks from Hatch. Anything I needed, Hatch staff was quick to provide. I did the Hatch radio show. You can hear my voice change over the years, as I took hormones and my transition continued.

I remember going to Hatch Prom for the first time. I won Prom Prince. It was amazing. I had never been in a place where I could be myself.

I’ll never forget when one of the Hatch volunteer mentors said to me, “When you first started to come to Hatch, you were hunched over. Your eyes were bugged out and you were looking every which way. You were scared. Now, I’m looking at you and you are a strong, confident young man who is so much happier than you were when you first came in.”

Looking to the Future

I wouldn’t be exaggerating to say that Hatch saved my life. It would be the largest understatement that I’ve ever made. Because it did. In so many ways.

Not only did it contribute to the person I am today, but it contributed to a completely different mindset. It contributed to friends and family and people that I would never have been able to meet otherwise. It helped steer my life in a completely different direction.

Without Hatch, I would have given up a long time ago. If not in the worst way imaginable, then I would be working. Every day. All day. Just trying to survive.

There are too many young LGBTQ people who don’t have a safe place to live. Who have to live on friends couches like I did all throughout high school or worse. Hatch finds the youth like me and gives them hope and a family. They connected me to every service available.

Hatch staff convinced me to apply to college. That was hard for me since at the time I did not know where I was going to sleep or where my next meal was coming from. I got in to the University of Houston and received a Pell grant. My first year was tough, but when my Hatch mentor found out I was struggling financially he helped me interview and win a full ride scholarship for four years.

I am currently a sophomore at the University of Houston. Once I get my degree, I want to get my teaching certificate. I want to find the best way to help people the way Hatch helped me.

I’ve learned that sharing my story and giving advice helps, not only me, but other people at Hatch. And I feel like maybe it’s something I can do to help people outside of Hatch too. The other thing I can do is inspire you to be brave and to reach out to the LGBTQ youth in your life and let them know you support them. Also find a program like Hatch Youth Services and support it. If there is not one near you, start one. I was lucky that there were people here for me, but too many youths like me have no one they can turn to for help.

6 Lessons From Our #KindnessChat

In celebration of Random Acts of Kindness Week, Born This Way Foundation hosted a Twitter chat this week with our President and co-founder, Cynthia Germanotta (@momgerm), and Dr. David Hamilton (@DrDRHamilton), an authority on kindness and its many benefits. In case you missed it, here are a few highlights!

 

Thank you to Dr. Hamilton, Cynthia, and all of you for sharing your experiences and knowledge on the power of kindness. As Dr. Hamilton writes in his guest post, being kind isn’t just the right thing to do – it’s good for you!

Check out the whole #KindnessChat and stay tuned for more conversations on kindness, bravery, and the science behind both!