We’ve teamed up with Jack.org to bring you a resource that helps you learn how to recognize when a loved one is struggling and how you can be there for them. Be Kind / Be There.

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Be There

a resource by jack.org

We’ve teamed up with Jack.org to bring you a resource that helps you learn how to recognize when a loved one is struggling and how you can be there for them. Be Kind / Be There.

Learn More
Be There

a resource by jack.org

Introducing #BeKindBeThere

Alex Aide is Director of Programs for Born This Way Foundation

I’m so proud to tell you that Born This Way Foundation and Jack.org are teaming up to launch #BeKindBeThere. Hosted on Jack.org’s Be There platform, #BeKindBeThere aims to reinforce the importance of equipping young people with the knowledge and confidence they need to recognize when someone is struggling, lean into tough conversations, and maintain their own mental health while showing they care. To be kind by being there.

Click here to learn how you can #BeKindBeThere for yourself and others.

We believe young people everywhere should have access to resources and tools to support themselves and each other when it comes to their mental health. This access creates real change and has the ability to save countless lives. Let me give you an example that, unfortunately, happens every day in every part of the world:

A young person named Morgan has been down in the pits for the past couple of weeks. Morgan is struggling to share that information because they feel embarrassed about it. Their parents never really talk about mental health, and it’s just not something they feel comfortable bringing up. Morgan worries they might be judged or that someone might make fun of them. However, it’s gotten to the point where they hope a friend, a family member, or someone that cares about them just asks, “are you OK?” But they haven’t yet. So Morgan bravely works up the courage to tell a friend how they are feeling lately, hoping that they’ll listen, offer some hope, and maybe connect them to a professional or a resource that can support them further.

But when they tell their friend, their friend freezes. Their friend has noticed that something is up with Morgan lately, and wants to be there, but just isn’t sure what to say. So they unsuredly say “Well, you’ll feel better soon,” and then quickly change the subject. Morgan doesn’t really feel validated and now doesn’t feel comfortable sharing any more about this situation. Morgan continues to deal with these feelings alone. Their friend feels like they let Morgan down and doesn’t feel confident in bringing up the conversation again, either.

We can fix this. We can share with young people what to say and do when they think their friend is in danger. We can work with an entire generation of young people to break the stigma around mental health and have these life-saving conversations. We can encourage young people as they hold on to each other and never let young people feel like their struggles with mental health are something to be ashamed of or not worth addressing. We can support countless young people so they stay in our world.

Research shows that young people are eager for this information, and we can’t let them down. Jack.org’s research shows that 83% of young people say they’ve supported a friend struggling with their mental health yet only 39% of them felt they were prepared to offer the support that was needed. Comparably, our research at Born This Way Foundation reinforces this need to prepare young people finding that 74% of young people in the U.S. indicated they are interested in resources to support their friend’s mental health, yet approximately 1-in-3 young people say they lack reliable access to mental wellness resources.

If you are a young person, if you have a young person in your life, or if you are of any age and just want to know what to do when someone in your life is going through a difficult time, join us in this initiative to #BeKindBeThere and help us spread the word.

Visit BeThere.org today. Be kind by being there.

Power + World Mental Health Day

World Mental Health Day was going to be a very busy day for me. I had blogs to write, op-ed’s to pitch, press to do, and important tweets to send. I was going to tell you a lot of statistics and try to convince you that there is hope (there is), and remind you that we each have a role to play in building a culture that prioritizes mental health (we do). And then, the power went out, literally. The electricity in my town is out today, so I spent this morning frantically searching for a cup of coffee and a place to charge my phone while working hard to find a signal to download hundreds of emails that await me every morning. I got dressed using a flashlight in my closet and my refrigerator door is tied shut with a dog rope toy serving so my children are reminded to not open it.

I couldn’t go far since traffic lights aren’t working and school might be cancelled so I went to find electricity and coffee at Nick’s Starbucks. Here I am with Nick next to the store’s kindness tree:

As I sit next to the kindness tree, I am thinking about everything I should be doing today that I can’t because of the power, because of the traffic, because of uncertainty. Everyone in the store after ordering their coffee comes to stand next to me to look at this colorful message board. Kids laugh at the occasional use of an expletive, women in groups clutch each other’s arms and release audible “aww’s”,  and business men try and look busy on their phones while they read the leaves. The people writing these notes and the people reading these notes – we’ve all been both people – we just want a place to put our hearts, our fears, our hopes, and our truths. 

On World Mental Health Day, when the best laid plans have been derailed, I am just reading these leaves (and watching other people read them) and sharing them with you.

“My best friend is moving. Brig, you’re incredible.”

“My mom is a lesbian and my dad doesn’t know.”

“Lily, be courageous. Love, Peter”

“Hey, I think you’re pretty. Maybe could we hang out?”

“I am sad.”

“F*#^ those people who think it’s OK to be a bully.”

“If you ever feel stupid, weak, or powerless, remember that I – and you – am not.”  

“Thankful for my friends.”

“Words are so powerful, so choose the right ones.”

Here are a few more:

Today, as it turns out, I won’t be on TV to talk about how important it is to acknowledge the experiences of the people around you and be a safe, trusted person with which people can share their stories. I will be sitting next to this kindness tree, acknowledging the experiences of the little boy who just wrote “be happy, life is short” followed by a series of Minecraft emojis. I’ll cry with the woman that just wrote, “You can change the world. Really.” I’ll be smiling at strangers are they hesitate above my shoulder, maybe feeling the urge to write something or unexpectedly connecting with something already written. 

Today, I’m meant to be here, forcibly removed from distractions, in my pajamas, bearing witness to this kind, diverse, painful expression of our collective experience. 

Young People: We Hear You

Maya Smith is Executive Director of Born This Way Foundation.

There’s absolutely no question that the ideas, opinions, and voices of our young people are necessary to improve our mental healthcare system. That’s why Born This Way Foundation was so excited to partner with California’s Mental Health Services Oversight and Accountability Commission (MHSOAC) with the goal of incorporating the insights provided by California’s youth into innovations to improve mental health services in the state

In addition to working with the Benenson Strategy Group to survey more than 400 California youth ages 13 to 25, we also held four focus groups with young people of that same age range and were able to make multiple conclusions about how young people view their mental health, the type of relationship they have with mental health resources, and the sort of mental health innovations they would like to see in their state.

What we learned from our partnership with MHSOAC reinforced what we’ve been hearing from young people all along. Young people know the importance of maintaining their mental health and want to embrace it as a priority, they’re ready to combat the associated stigma that comes along with talking about their mental health, and they want to learn the necessary coping skills to deal with the stressors of their finances, school, and work life. However, they lack the necessary tools and support systems to do any of these things and desperately want their schools and communities to provide more accessible, affordable, and reliable mental health resource to help fill in the gaps.

Our research reported that one-third of youth in California say they “rarely” or “never” have access to resources to support their mental health, and over half said they don’t have the resources to deal with online harassment, bullying, sexual assault, or suicidal ideation. Just as concerning, almost half of all young people in California say they don’t know where to turn to get mental health resources, and more than a third of young people said that even if they did know where to look, the high cost of these services prevents them from actually using them.

As a California native, these statistics hit my heart hard. As a mother, these statistics hit my heart even harder. I want my children to know that they are supported at every step of the way. I want them to feel empowered to talk openly and honestly about their mental health. I want them to be equipped with the skills and strategies necessary to support their friends and family who may be struggling. I want them to know that they’re never alone, and I want them to know we’re listening. 

To all the young people we had the privilege of talking to during the research we performed during this partnership: We hear you. We’re listening. 

We hear you when you say you want more mental health resources; we hear you when you say you want your schools to have Mental Health First Aid trainings; we hear you when you say you want more POC and LGBTQ+ representation among your therapists, counselors, and the help you receive. And we hear you when you say you need more mental health support from the adults in your schools and communities.

With your feedback, MHSOAC will support the development and implementation of youth-focused innovation projects at the local and state level intended to create a positive change within California’s mental health system. These projects will embrace all the powerful stories we’ve heard from young people, incorporate their feedback about how the system can be improved, and ultimately reaffirm that their stories and insights are valued and appreciated. To all the young people that continue to provide us with their insights, stories, and voices: We hear you. We’re listening.

Saying Thank You

Maya Smith is Executive Director of Born This Way Foundation.

In my house, we’re living in a season of repetitive reminders of “please” and “thank you”. My kids are good kids and when prompted, they always stop in their tracks and add the gratitude phrase appropriate for that exchange. It’s just hard to express appreciation along the way when their little bodies and minds are moving so quickly all of the time. My job is to help them slow down, learn about the power of gratitude, and appreciate the many things around us that we have to be grateful for like snacks, play time, clean air to breathe, and a carefree summer of cycles of dirt and pool time that counts as a shower.
 
So, in a quiet house before everyone wakes up to start the next summer cycle, I want to take a minute to say thank you. Things have also been moving so quickly at the Foundation and in the world around us that on any given day, my heart is broken and then my faith is restored before I’ve finished my first cup of coffee. It’s important for me to say thank you to the incredible Born This Way Foundation community that has propelled our work and our mission forward.

  • This community helped us raise over $200,000 over the last month – thousands of you. I’m knee deep in thank you cards right now, addressing envelopes to people all over the world and whether you gave $5 or $500, your donation means so much to us. We’ll use these donations to build an urgently needed resource for young people facing crises – or just everyday challenges, making support and community even more accessible.
  • Thank you to the hundreds of young people in our network who participated in preliminary focus groups around this resource concept. We’ve been blown away by your honesty, vulnerability, and resilience; thank you for sharing your time, treasure, and talent with us. If you want to receive updates on this project, please make sure you’ve joined our community and connect with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.
  • Gratitude can also be bittersweet in times of transition. Last week was Rachel Martin’s last with the Foundation. Rachel has been my partner in kindness for more than three years, and she has shaped this organization and each of our team members in profound ways. I used to ask Josh to print Google Docs for me because technology…and now I know how to log in and even leave a comment or two. I am sad, proud, and so grateful about this transition and all she has contributed to the Foundation. We made this video to say thank you, Rachel.
  • The Staples Back To School sale started this week and it’s too soon, friends. Nevertheless, it seems my six-year-old also got the message that he’s going to start school again next month and when we were out to dinner with some friends, he drew me a picture. Around our house, we call #BeKind21 “Hunter’s Campaign.” It was his experience starting kindergarten and navigating a new space that drove my desperate desire to use every platform and skill at my disposal to ensure his school would be a kind, inclusive, and welcoming environment. Hunter’s Campaign launched a movement that included nearly half a million of you and generated more than 8,000,000 acts of kindness. I’m not sure where he learned the phrase “OMG” but I share his excitement that it’s almost #BeKind21 time and I am so thankful that for every Fortnite doodle and Minecraft game, he also thinks about the actions behind the words Be Kind. Are you in for #BeKind21 again?

I try and pair my gratitude with action. I send greeting cards, give donations to my favorite non-profits, and participate in civic engagement – click here to register to vote! – all in an attempt to right the wrongs around me.

So please and thank you to the incomparable Born This Way Foundation community. You transform the world with your kindness.

Exciting news from Geneva!

Maya Smith is Executive Director of Born This Way Foundation.

On Monday, I had the supreme honor of watching Cynthia Germanotta sit beside leaders from around the world in Geneva at the 72nd World Health Assembly and be announced as the World Health Organization’s Goodwill Ambassador for Mental Health.

Later that day, we sat eating fondue with our friends and partners at United for Global Mental Health, strategists of the Speak Your Mind campaign. Elisha London, their CEO and co-founder, turned to our team and asked, “Could you have imagined that you’d ever be here, doing this work?” Cynthia, the ever polite and humble one, answered that she was overwhelmed and so grateful. Rachel said something about our hard work and they turned to me and I said, “Yes.” I was too tired, proud, and overwhelmed in that moment to explain why I answered with such certainty but I’ve slept now and I’m headed home, seated next to the Ambassador and I’d like to better answer the question.

When I started at Born This Way Foundation, almost seven years ago, I would spend hours – even then – reading emails from Tássia in Brazil, Maria in Germany, Iggy in Japan, and Eduardo in Spain. Alongside my basic understanding of a few languages, Google Translate would help me read the impassioned stories of these young people from around the world who had found their voices, their communities, and their support through Lady Gaga’s bravery and talent. They would ask me when the Foundation would come to their country and when we’d do work with and for their friends. While I didn’t have a date to give them, I’d tell them that they are part of a global movement, that we would be there soon, and that they are not alone. The first and last statements were always true and now, through the appointment of Cynthia as a WHO Goodwill Ambassador for Mental Health, we are closer to meeting these young people where they are so we can support them as they build the kinder, braver world they deserve.

Multiple times in Geneva, Cynthia turned to me, in crowded rooms of dignitaries, and whispered that she wants to be surrounded by young people. In these rooms, in every room. In the conversations this week, in every conversation. This new role is just the latest opportunity she will use to continue to call on young people to tell their own stories and to work tirelessly to provide them with the resources and platforms they need to share not only the challenges they face, but the solutions they know are possible.

Please join me, Lady Gaga, and the entire Born This Way Foundation community in offering Cynthia our big, loud, and incredibly proud congratulations. If you haven’t already, follow her on Twitter @MomGerm, on Instagram @CynthiaBTWF, and on Facebook @CynthiaGermanotta to tell her the changes you want to see in mental health and to stay posted as she gets to work as the WHO’s new Goodwill Ambassador for Mental Health!