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A Note from Maya Enista Smith: Our New Executive Director

We are thrilled to announce that Maya Enista Smith, currently our Director of Impact and Operations, will now be the first Executive Director of Born This Way Foundation! Maya has been an integral part in growing the Born This Way Foundation and is committed to working towards making sure the world is a braver and kinder place. Get to know Maya better below! 

On Thursday, I was driving my almost four-year- old to school and we passed a skunk on the side of the road. Immediately, the car filled with the skunk stench and I could see him in the rear view mirror, pinching his nose and sticking out his tongue. I opened his window, let the fresh air in and averted the potential, stinky crisis.

As we continued down the road, he asked, “Mama, why do skunks make stinky smells?” He’s at the age where most of his questions about which planet is the biggest or about the canals on Lake Eerie require me to ask Siri but this one, I knew. I explained to him that skunks spray that smell to protect themselves or when they are scared.

He thought about my answer for a moment and then followed up; “Mama, how do people protect us?”

His question came to me, ten days after the unspeakable tragedy in Orlando, on the morning of another movie theater shooting in Viernheim, Germany, while living in a country divided and confused by a vitriolic political debate, and driving my four-year-old to a school that has (thankfully) taught my toddler what to do if there is an active shooter on a campus. All this led me to the realization that I did not have a good answer for him.

With tears streaming down my face, I told him that our protection is the use of our words. I told him that when one of our buddies (our word for friends he hasn’t met yet) does something to us that we do not like or that hurts us, we use our words and ask them to stop.

We are fortunate enough to have words, unlike the skunk, to communicate with others and for others to communicate with us. I told him that not everyone remembers how to use their words anymore but that doesn’t mean we should stop. 

I sat in the parking lot of his school after dropping him off, reflecting on our conversation and how important the message of kindness is and the power of our words, as well as our actions. I chose the work that I do because of a choice my parents made for their children, immigrating to a democracy to give us rights and opportunities that they had never had.

I continue to do the work that I do because of my own children and all of their buddies across the world. I need to continue to believe that the potential, opportunity and idealism that led my parents to give up everything they had and come here, is real and can be available to everyone who wants and needs it.

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I am so proud to work for an organization that shares that aspirational vision and today, I’m honored to be writing this blog as the new Executive Director of Born This Way Foundation.

Born This Way Foundation is dedicated to the wellness of young people, the flourishing of our communities and, ultimately, to the creation of a kinder and braver world. In the four years that I have been with Born This Way Foundation, we have connected with, convened and supported millions of young people across the world. We’ve invited them to share their stories, collaborate with one another, realize the power of their voice and leverage their many online and offline communities to promote the wellness of themselves and each other.

Moving forward, Born This Way Foundation will continue to do this important work. We will be informed by the best scientific research available and collaborate with the best likeminded organizations operating today to connect young people with the real stories that will inspire them and the resources that will empower them to thrive. Over the coming months, we will launch new programming focused on catalyzing action and creating real change in schools, communities, and online.

We will focus on the root causes of so many issues that our young people – and our country – are facing. We will work to equip youth with the tools they need to thrive mentally and emotionally, understanding that raising healthy children means considering the whole picture.

We will work to foster kindness, compassion, and hope in our communities, fighting back against the tide of hate that divides us.

And – perhaps most importantly – we’ll work with young people themselves to ensure that they have a seat at the table and a voice in this conversation.

I ended my conversation with my son last week by telling him that sometimes, people don’t listen to our words and that makes us sad. But when that happens, we act as an example of the kindness and respect with which we want to be treated and we hope that they notice, and change their behavior. I told him that he can be an example of kindness that others can learn from and that he can also learn from the kind actions and words of other people. He told me he’d stop poking his little sister in the face, and I agreed that would be a great place to start.

As both a mother and as Executive Director of Born This Way Foundation, I invite you to join us as we build a kinder and braver world.

Mental Illness in the Classroom

Mental illnesses, unlike most physical illnesses, are often not visible to those who are not experiencing them. However, 1 in 5 young people between the ages of 13 and 18 experience a severe mental disorder during some point in their life. In addition, one third of students who are living with a mental illness will drop out of school before high school graduation.

Although these statistics show that there are many students living with mental health conditions, many feel as though mental health is not a priority in the classroom.  Students who are dealing with mental illnesses or disabilities often react to them in different ways, so it is important for educators to understand the warning signs of mental illness and to work with the students and parents to ensure that their child is receiving appropriate accommodations in order to succeed.

Some warning signs of mental illness include:

  • Refusing to attend school
  • Self harm or threats of self harm
  • Abuse of alcohol or drugs
  • Changes in sleeping or eating patterns
  • Loss of interest in a preferred activity
  • Drastic change in school performance

Educators play a powerful role in the lives of their students, it is important to have healthy communication in classrooms for students to discuss how they are feeling. Creating this open door for communication can help to increase awareness about mental health as well as to break the stigma surrounding these disorders.  If you are a teacher who is working with a student who is struggling with a mental illness, talk to your district’s child study team, or check out these great resources from MentalHealth.gov.

His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama and Lady Gaga to Talk ‘Kindness’ and ‘Compassion’ With the Nation’s Mayors in Indianapolis

We are thrilled to announce that our co-founder, Lady Gaga, and His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama will be speaking at the Conference of Mayors this Sunday. Together, they’ll discuss the power of kindness and how we can make the world more compassionate. On Sunday, you can follow the conversation through #CityofKindness and #KindYouth.

Get all the details in the excerpt from the press release below!

The United States Conference Of Mayors 84th Annual Meeting | Sunday, June 26, 2016

Washington, D.C. – His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama of Tibet will address the nation’s mayors the morning of Sunday, June 26, 2016 at The U.S. Conference of Mayors (USCM) 84th Annual Meeting in Indianapolis, IN. The Dalai Lama’s keynote remarks will focus on the global significance of building kind and compassionate cities through action at the local level. Following His Holiness’ presentation, the Dalai Lama will be joined by singer/songwriter, actress, and activist Lady Gaga for an onstage conversation, moderated by journalist Ann Curry, featuring a Q&A session with questions from mayors as well as young people from around the country.
The panel will be joined by businessman and philanthropist Philip Anschutz.

Under the leadership of USCM President Baltimore (MD) Mayor Stephanie Rawlings-Blake and host Indianapolis (IN) Mayor Joe Hogsett, nearly 300 of the nation’s mayors will meet in the swing state of Indiana for their Annual Meeting from June 24 – 27, 2016. During the Meeting, mayors will discuss a wide variety of priorities that contribute to the overall health of America’s cities, and consider and adopt the policy resolutions that guide the advocacy agenda of the organization.

Each of the Presidential candidates has been invited to address the meeting, and to discuss The 2016 Mayors’ Compact for a Better America: A Call to Action, which prioritizes urban issues, as well as their vision to strengthen the federal-local partnership and build strong cities and metro economies.

With more than 85% of people in the United States living in our nation’s cities and metro areas, mayors are convinced that despite their geographic location, cities large and small are plagued by many of the same challenges. As a result, and unlike other elected officials, mayors are often able to find common ground and work in a true spirit of bipartisanship.

The mayors will also release a new report with economic forecasts for all of the nation’s 363 metropolitan areas. In addition, USCM will give cash awards totaling more than $1 million to cities showcasing stellar best-practices in the areas of climate protection, community development, and college & career-readiness training.

WHO: The Dalai Lama & Lady Gaga to Address The U.S. Conference of Mayors 84th Annual Meeting
WHEN: Sunday, June 26, 2016 | 10:30a to 12n
WHERE: J.W. Marriott | Grand Ballroom 5/6 | 10 S. West St, Indianapolis, IN 46204 | 317-860-5800

A Movement To End Online Harassment

Have you ever been bullied online? Even if you haven’t been the victim of online harassment, you probably know someone who has been. Online harassment is much more harmful than just words on a screen — it takes a serious emotional, mental, and physical toll. At Born this Way Foundation, we believe that has to change. No one should have to endure bullying, in-person or online.

At Code Conference earlier this month, our co-founder Cynthia Germanotta called for an end to cyberbullying. It will take hard work from everyone to end online harassment but it is achievable with your help.

Join us by taking the Hack Harassment pledge: http://www.hackharassment.com/pledge/

And, follow Hack Harassment on Twitter, @Hack_Harassment, and on Facebook to find more ways to get involved. Together, we can make the Internet a kinder, braver place.

 

Rising Above Bullying

Today’s guest blog comes from Rex Saldana, President of the Danville/ San Ramon Valley, California PFLAG chapter. Here at Born This Way Foundation, we are honored to shine light on amazing organizations who are making the world a kinder, braver place like the Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). PFLAG is a national family and ally organization, connecting hundreds of thousands of LGBTQ people to families, friends, and allies around the U.S. 

When I speak about bullying, I am speaking from first-hand experience. Growing up gay in the South was not easy. The things that came more naturally to me – being sensitive, having a neat, stylish appearance, an interest in the arts, not terribly athletic – were what made me a target for bullies. It’s hard for others to imagine what it’s like to deal with an experience like this, unless they have been through it themselves. To be picked on and humiliated for no reason, and without warning, is very jarring and upsetting from an emotional standpoint. For me, the most painful and least understood thing about all of this was – why am I a target? What did I do to deserve this? Why I am being singled out when I have done nothing to anyone? Imagine all of these emotions tumbling around inside a young teenager who is also trying to cope with his or her sexuality in what has generally been a non-accepting society. The results of this type of bullying have stayed with me throughout my adult life.

However, as horrible as they were, It was these experiences, which led me to join my local chapter of PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) about three years ago. Since that time I have served as the President of the chapter and been involved with numerous outreaches to the local community, such as with the GSAs (Gay/Straight Alliance) in the local high schools, and outreach to the local transgender and transgender-ally communities through special events such as an awareness forum which we held last year. This event served to bring transgender youth and the local community together to foster a more inclusive environment for these children and also to educate people about what it means to be transgender.

It is a fact that at PFLAG, we are now seeing transgender issues take more and more of a center stage, especially as acceptance of gays and lesbians and same-sex marriage becomes more widespread. We are seeing children as young as 5 years old declaring that they feel like the opposite sex inside. We are seeing more and more middle school and high school children participating in hormone therapy and gender reassignment surgery. Recently, our monthly PFLAG support meetings have become more and more transgender issue-oriented. This community is definitely coming out of the shadows, and thanks to high-profile celebrities like Caitlyn Jenner and Laverne Cox, more and more people are becoming aware of what transgender is and what these individuals are experiencing on a daily basis. There is no doubt that we have come a long, long way in the struggle for LGBT equality and with the help of organizations like the Born This Way Foundation, PFLAG, and others, are working towards a more accepting and kind society.

Rex Saldana is President of the Danville/San Ramon, California PFLAG chapter, and is an advocate for LGBT and anti-bullying issues.  He is also an enthusiastic supporter of the Born This Way Foundation.  He lives in Danville, California with his partner of 20 years, David, and their two cats, Augustus and Veruca.